Category Archives: Dad Life

The Mountain West: Not All Sunshine & Lollipops

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We have really enjoyed being out here in Park City, Utah for an extended period of time.

I have written about the path that got us here.  In short, we were here when the pandemic started and decided to shelter here for a little while. A little while turned into a while longer.  

Last year, we missed most of fire season.  There were a few days where you could tell there was something going on with particulates in the air.  Mostly eerie sunsets.

This year has been a different story.  We have seen a lot of these kinds of forecasts.

We have learned about PurpleAir.  There have been consecutive days where it has been legitimately smokey – with smoke coming over from California (i.e., the Dixie Fire).  

And we had our own fire recently.  There were evacuations and disruptions. And a lot of smoke.

VLAT Operating Over Parley’s Canyon Fire near Park City, Utah

Recent events have made us appreciate the clear days even more.  Even the locals are distressed with the situation this year.  

Fire season is something to understand if you are considering the Mountain West.

Unexpected Benefit

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I am a cyclist.  I generally ride as much as I can.

This does create some tension in my personal life.  Safety is a root cause.

So, I have ridden with Road ID’s “ecrumb” application (https://www.roadid.com/pages/road-id-app)  for several years.  It allows my wife, or anyone else I add, to track my rides via an emailed link.  There are similar applications from other companies.  The main benefit is if something unforeseen would happen, your last known location is traceable.

Recently, I discovered an added benefit of the application.  I lost my phone on my ride. 

I had put my phone in my jersey back pocket.  That’s fairly common.  But this was not a particularly well fitting jersey and I had my repair kit in there as well.  And, I had a little off bike incident that apparently dislodged my phone without me knowing it.  We won’t call it a crash, since I never hit the ground, but I did come off the bike in a fairly unceremonious way.

As soon as I got home, I realized my phone was missing.  We looked on the “ecrumb” and the application reported the last known position as the spot of my little event.  When I rode back to the spot, there my phone was, laying under a little bush.

A nice surprise.

Hard Tacos

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Mrs. SFTE decided to torture our daughter the other week.  She made tacos.  Taco Tuesday you know.  But with a wrinkle.  She made hard tacos.

These were the new and improved version.  These hard tacos had flat bottoms so they stood up on their own.  However, they still broke down the middle, spilling all the contents as my daughter found out the hard way.

I honestly cannot remember the last time I ate hard tacos.  Guessing here; but I think you could measure that time in decades.

It’s funny how your perspective changes.  I think the first time I realized there was such a thing as soft tacos was at a restaurant at an age not too much older than my daughter.  What a paradigm shift that night was.  Maybe they were widely available before that.  I really have no idea.  All I know is that from my perspective there was only one kind of taco: hard.  And once I realized soft tacos were an option, I never went back.

Sort of like soft tacos for my daughter – until the other night.  She had no idea. Ha ha ha….

Why I Run

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I used to be a reasonably competitive distance runner.  Team titles, individual titles, all conference, academic all American, blah blah…  Like decent.  Not world class.  Not national champion.  But generally not somebody you wanted on your shoulder 1,000 meters out.  And running was a really big part of me and my identity.

Some days, those accomplishments seem like they were achieved by a different human. Despite only being ~15 pounds over my racing weight back in college.

Working out regularly and even structured training is still part of the mix.  Even after some time away post college.  I eventually came back to the training and competing.  Because I need it.  That is just who I am.  It is part of me.  Chicken or egg problem.

The bike (or bike trainer) has been a big part of that regime.  But still nothing beats running for me.  Despite the nagging and chronic pain and injuries that began plaguing me late in my college career. And continue still.

As I was recently attempting another come back from my injury (I will call it my injury because it’s been with me for decades), I began reflecting on why I run.  What am I trying to get out of it?

In my days competing, the goal was to be as fast as possible in the races that mattered.  Period.  Everything was focused on enhancing performance.  At the risk of actually not competing in those races, because you broke.  But the risk was worth it.  And necessary.  Everyone else was pretty much doing the same thing.

The motto I trained under was:  Take one day off; you know it.  Take two days off; your coach knows it.  Take three days off; everyone knows.  Each year, I could generally count days without a run on my fingers.  And, I found it easier to track weekly mileage on a plus, minus ten basis.  Just the deltas to ten.  Eight was minus 2; ten was zero; 12 was plus 2, etc.

Now it is different.  I run and train with different goal in mind.  I run today, so I can run tomorrow.  

And that impacts each run and the decision making around each run.  It may lead me to run slower (ok, maybe a lot slower) or shorter or stop at the first twinge of pain or even take days off (gasp).  

Maybe I am just getting old.  But thinking about running and training through this lens has helped.

Travel Shave Kit

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Thought I would share my travel shave kit, which I have been using for a number of years. 

I use a safety razor at home, which I found out the hard way, is not travel friendly.  Also, I prefer to have a separate bath kit packed.

My kit:

  • Razor – Yes, sir! No twelve bladed shaving monstrosity here.
  • Brush – Economy brush; nothing fancy.
  • Shave Cream – Palmolive Classic Shave Stick.

A few key features:

  • Small and compact
  • Versatile – equally functional at a hotel or campground
  • Carry on Friendly – no liquids
  • Inexpensive – the shave stick is $4 and has lasted for years
  • No Surprises – not going to run out of shaving cream unexpectedly
Photo by Kolleen Gladden on Unsplash

A Sense of Accomplishment

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Am I the only one that gets a sense of accomplishment out of using up household items like a bar of soap or a bag of coffee? 

Why do I do that? Am I weird? (Rhetorical question – don’t answer that)

I think some of that ties back to work not providing much of a sense of completion on a daily basis. That’s the downside of knowledge work. I think one of the differences between working in iIndustry” versus working in consulting or banking is there is no finish line with the former.  With Banking and Consulting every project is a finish line.

The time scale in “industry” is much longer. You can look back and see “years” of accomplishment. Transitions and shifts in the business that took a relatively long time to manifest themselves.

Further reading: Shop Class as Soul Craft

Book Report: The Conscious Parent

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This is meant to be more of a book report, than a review.  In particular, I want to highlight three lessons from the book, The Conscious Parent by Shefali Tsabary, that I found impactful.

This is a book that Mrs. SFTE read and highly recommended.  As with most books that require a bit of work, I struggled through it a little bit.  It was more me than the book. However, I found the book to have some concepts worth thinking about and that are really relevant across many situations – not just parenting.

The theme that I appreciated the most is that despite being a little unconventional and promoting concepts such as spirituality, mindfulness, and meditation, etc., the book is most certainly not suggesting that life should be all roses and rainbows.  In fact, a main message within the book is the life is not alway going to be pleasant and a parent must help a child understand that there will be frustrations, boredom, and the just plain “ordinary.” I found this theme welcome in a world full of millenial attitudes and expectations.

  1. Changing Your Behavior – “Matching our emotional energy to that of our children is far more effective than asking them to match their energy to ours.”  Be the grown up in the relationship. Parenting is as much about modifying your behavior to meet the situation as it is modifying your child’s behavior to what you think it should be.
  2. Focus on the Process as Much as the Outcome – This is a sentiment that crosses many disciplines.  And there’s good reason. “When we focus on the achievement of a goal instead of the learning process, our children miss many opportunities to develop their self-esteem.  Rather than telling them, ‘Good job. Here is your gift,’ it’s important to highlight their character development, sharing with them how proud we are that they showed patience, determination, and bravery. … In this way our children discover the joy in learning, quite apart from reaching a destination.”
  3. Allow Your Child to Just Be – In order to allow your child to develop, grow, and flourish, sometimes you need to step back and let them be who they are and figure things out for themselves.  “We are so heavily invested in our children, determined that they not mess up but become a success, that in our desire to be “good” parents, we find it difficult to just be with our children in their as is state, allowing whatever is happening to exist.”

In summary, a good book that certainly inspired some self-reflection.